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Ask HN: What Is a Skill You're Glad You Learnt Outside of Work?
I grew up in a very blue-collar / rural / "redneck" kind of environment and started wrenching on cars with my dad in his shop working on race cars from just about the time I was born. Now I'm no professional auto mechanic, but I have a modest amount of knowledge / skill / aptitude / whatever for working on cars and other mechanical things.

I did two years of welding in high-school. It's not a skill I use very often, but I'm glad I have at least the basics down. It could come in handy one day.

I started dabbling in hobby electronics as a small child and while I'm not professional electronics technician or anything, I can solder reasonably well and know my way around a multimeter / oscilloscope / etc. and can do some electronics repair and construction.

And in my years as a volunteer firefighter, I got my Firefighter Instructor certification and taught some certification classes, which has been valuable in terms of learning content delivery and being comfortable in front of large groups. Being a firefighter was also just generally valuable in terms of learning to be more confident / self-assured and having a stoic approach to high stress situations.

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Man you are almost the perfect "me" I wish I could be.

I'm bringing my vehicle to a mechanic next Saturday (first maintenance not in the vendor). I'm going to ask him how to change the tires. So far I only changed the driver swipe so there is a lot to learn.

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> Man you are almost the perfect "me" I wish I could be.

Heh. I don't think anybody has ever used the word "perfect" to describe anything related to me before. But if my example can serve as some sort of inspiration or motivation or something for somebody, then I've accomplished something useful in life. :-)

> I'm bringing my vehicle to a mechanic next Saturday (first maintenance not in the vendor). I'm going to ask him how to change the tires. So far I only changed the driver swipe so there is a lot to learn.

No worries. As the old saying goes "start with where you are." One great thing about the age we live in, is that there is SO much knowledge "out there" to be consumed and large swathes of it are free. When it comes to, for example, auto repairs there are so many Youtube videos detailing step by step how to do many, many of the common (and some not so common) repairs one might be interested in. And so on for a myriad of other interesting tasks. The only thing I'd specifically add is that if you ever start doing any serious auto work, really really put "safety first". If you need to get under your car for any reason, make sure to use jack stands (and get quality ones, not from Walmart!) and chock the wheels so the car can't roll, etc.

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Thanks. Yeah I completely agree with the safety part. I just watched a video that recommend the same thing you said about choking the wheels. I really appreciate the details of those videos.
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* Transmission. I learned to write my own proxies, relays, web servers, raw http client/server, websocket server/client, and more. This has been super helpful for personal projects.

* Test automation. I once wrote this test automation tool executed tests in the browser, file system, and command line. It also allowed remote execution of tests on other machines running the same application. That was super helpful and was the best window into performance analysis.

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Non-violent communication (NVC). The name is a bit wonky, but the principles are sound. I'd personally rather call it empathic communication. Especially using NVC towards myself was an eye opener, to the point where I do see some intersection with personal philosophy/spirituality there. But I mostly use it to tease out what needs I and my conversation partner have. I normally get trapped into focusing on the content of a discussion, NVC helps me to stay out of that trap and allow me to shift focus on feelings, needs and solutions to meeting them when it is appropriate.
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Reflective listening. The ability to hear people deeply is a powerful way to connect with people in a world largely absent of authentic personal connection.
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teach me
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contact info in bio
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Writing. As in paid to do it, with briefs, deadlines and editors. From this comment I probably look like a crap writer! I do need to focus alot to write well.

I don't use AI except for checking for basic mistakes. I may start using AI for research but I refuse to use it for generating a word of content.

I am thinking of writing a book. I have a rough idea of my rate 100 words per hour (including edits, research) so a 50k word book would take 500 hours or about a year of consistent grind. I'd probably blog the book content allowing for a win even if I abort early.

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I’m trying to imaging learning a skill and not being glad about it. So, all of them?

Most recently I’m learning fiberglass repair and gel coat (including color matching, which is really difficult for me). Before that, I built a wooden boat. Before that, sailing (which I’m still learning and intend to master at some point).

Fundamentally, learning not to be afraid to try something and learning the patience to be slow and make mistakes.

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Mountain skills. Being confident navigating, moving, backpacking, and (at a basic level) trad rock climbing in the hills. And knowing my limits. I find it grounding.
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Public speaking, in particular MC-ing events.
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how to practice in the beginning?
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If you have any Meetups (or similar groups) in your area for any topic you are interested in / knowledgeable about, then contact them. Most such groups are always looking for speakers and will happily accept anybody who volunteers. And the expectation aren't usually super high from the audience. So if you have a few too many "uuuhhhs" and "aaaahhhhs", or your slides are a bit janky, or it takes too long to get your laptop to connect to the projector, they'll usually be pretty forgiving. Nobody is going to throw tomatoes at you or anything. About the worst thing that would usually happen in that setting is that some impatient person gets up and walks out.

Local meetups like this are a great way to cut your teeth at presenting and public speaking. And yes, I speak from experience here. I did the firefighting instructor stuff mentioned above in my early to mid 20's but after I left the fire department behind and moved to a new area, I got involved in the Meetup / User Group scene and started doing a lot of these kinds of talks. Both experiences combined definitely helped me overall in terms of becoming a (somewhat) confident public speaker.

Toastmasters is also an option I hear good things about, but I have no first hand experience doing that.

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systems programming and functional programming while working multiple minimum wage jobs
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Empathy.

It took some time, but once I applied it to work I was able to view my coworkers from a much more loving lens. Even when we don't get along, I always try to imagine that they might be going through something or have gone through something that's eliciting certain behaviors. It's a little creepy, but I do try to consider that they have a family, or are alone, or had a certain life, stuff like that. Might not even be entirely true, but this is how I chose to view things to keep the lantern burning at a modest brightness (not too bright, not too dim).

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Golf
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