Fine, but I ask you what does it mean to "win" in this context?

What's the difference between milquetoast pearl clutching and a take you disagree with about a currently hot topic?

How do you tell when someone who disagrees with you is coming from a place of feeling threatened or devalued vs. a place you'd consider legitimate?

Hoping your methods are reliable and transferable, you're applying them to "a great deal" of posts so maybe they'd be helpful to me too.