I'm sorry but I don't buy this. We have been parenting forever, parents get burnt out. That doesn't mean you just ignore what your kids are doing.
It's your responsibility to be their guardians, not the government.
Can we normalize “it takes a village” again? After all, we do let bars and liquor stores get a slap on the wrist for selling to minors. If you let a child into an adult movie theater you’d be in jail. Why do we pretend we don’t live in a world with laws and standard conduct the second we connect to a modem?
Parents are buying the alcohol from the liquor store (internet service, which kids cannot buy themselves) and giving it to their kids.
If you don't approve of the alcohol you're giving to your kids then stop giving it to them (it is legal in my state for parents to buy alcohol for their kids). So what if other kids are drinking too and it would be socially a pain for the kid? That's always been true of having a parent with stricter rules.
When I was a kid in the 90s my parents limited how much TV we could watch. I knew other kids who could only use the family computer for a limited time and while their parents were in the room.
I sympathize with parents who do want to provide internet service to their kids and want better parental control software.
But making the internet worse for everyone is not the way. Discord has already had a partner leak IDs before. [1]
[1] https://discord.com/press-releases/update-on-security-incide...
Believe it or not, the current neoliberal hellscape actually empowers the people who want to parent my kids for me. Because when everything is run by massive and centralized powers, most people (quite understandably) stop being able to conceive of handling things in a way that isn’t yet another massive centralized power move.