When did rock music, video games or porn tell their audience to kill themselves in a personalized way to a point people actually did it, and in a way that directly links to those media?

I don't know what you're advocating for. Are you saying we shouldn't have any safety restrictions on AI because we're responsible for how we use the tool? The hardcore pornography people managed to get laws put in place where you need an ID to view it, pretty much every major AI company has measures in place to do harm reduction and save the user from themselves, so to some degree society kind of agrees with the side you're aruging against.