(This is spoken with something close to affection; I look fondly on my former Emacs days. I'm probably more likely than not to enjoy the company of a human who has at least tried Emacs and had some thoughtful reaction to it. I may not use it now, but the ideas live on in how I think and what I expect. Editors that push the limits, whatever those limits are, are part of the old school ethos I love about programming.)
Scripting language? Check!
Custom commands? Check!
Windows management? Check!
Build tools integration and error-based navigation? Check!
File manager? Check!
Looking at the Emacs and NeoVim codebases in GitHub: Emacs is 74.6% ELisp or CommonLisp and NeoVim is 71.9% Lua or VimScript. Never mind, NeoVim is close!
But, can you at runtime modify the NeoVim core functions? Honest question because I've only used vim and VimScript was definately limited compared to elisp. If so, then I say NeoVim and Emacs are both highly-extensible editors.