> People have been worried about that on HN for years, but I still see the same culture...

And that's the crux of the issue - the industry and people have changed, but HN hasn't changed discourse wise and is growing increasingly disconnected demographically speaking.

A large portion of HNers are men in their late 30s to 50s, and no longer located in the Bay Area or NYC.

No one's who matters is having these kinds of conversations on HN - they're meeting IRL with Luma invites or in signal/imessage/discord group chats.