I would never let them think I regret them - that’s such a cruel thing to inflict upon them, and it’s certainly not their fault. I also don’t regret the joy it’s brought my wife.
replyI regret the loss of my mental energy and personal time, but not them, if that makes sense.
For me it helped to realize that the things I would have done with the extra time and energy would not have been that great. Some occasional dopamine bursts for a very mediocre outcome. Having kids is a better investment, but a less fun one.
reply> that’s such a cruel thing to inflict upon them
replyIt certainly is. Speaking from personal experience. And he let me know in a very direct and cruel way.
I’m genuinely sorry to hear that.
replyI make sure my kids know I love them in many, many ways.