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by hnfong7 hours ago |
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upvoteby magicalhippo7 hours ago|
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> So if one is desperate enough to ask random strangers online about a relationship

I'd me more inclined to ask random strangers on the internet than close friends...

That said, when me and my SO had a difficult time we went to a professional. For us it helped a lot. Though as the counselor said, we were one of the few couples which came early enough. Usually she saw couples well past the point of no return.

So yeah, if you don't ask in time, you will probably be breaking up anyway.

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upvoteby hnfong3 hours ago|
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I would speculate that, if a couple goes to a professional for help, they have much better chances than asking on a random forum online...
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upvoteby otabdeveloper47 hours ago|
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> relationships that don't lead anywhere

Relationships are not transactions that are supposed to "lead somewhere".

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upvoteby ambicapter7 hours ago|
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You’re being a bit pedantic here “leading somewhere” is accepted shorthand for a lasting, satisfying relationship that is good for both parties.
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upvoteby SpicyLemonZest7 hours ago|
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Most people engage in romantic relationships because they'd like to find someone to marry and settle down with. Nothing but respect for the people who've thought it through and decided that's not for them, but what's much more common is failing to think it through or worrying it would be awkward/scary/"cringe" to take their relationship goals seriously.

That's what people are pointing to when they talk about relationships not "leading anywhere". If you want to be married in 5-10 years, and you're 2 years into an OK relationship with someone you don't want to marry, it's going to suck to break up with them but you have to do it anyway.

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