I agree VLAN hopping is not possible without misconfiguration but it still is a "concern" for some. I also make extensive use of VLANs on my home network.
If you're trying to push close to a gigabit up and down simultaneously that single port will become a bottleneck. I agree for most typical use cases it is not a concern.
That's going to be super rare. If it's just LAN traffic it shouldn't hit your router at all and you won't have the bottleneck issue. The actual cases would need to be quite contrived, like you're backing up your media library at the same time you're updating cod warzone.