In my view, if someone invades your territory and starts attacking you, you have no obligation to follow any sort of "principles" or "rules" when it comes to how you fight back. Anything you need to do to the attackers in order to defend yourself and your people is, by definition, morally defensible.
(Do note that I said "need". Doing arbitrary messed-up things that don't actually further the goal of driving back the attackers is not ok.)
US exceptionalism is a prominent feature of every republican and democratic president since decades.
It's sad, because if US did, and led by example, it could've pulled serious weight internationally on plenty of matters.
Instead it can only do so by economic or military leverage, which, at the end of the day is not enough of a leverage to avoid confrontation.