I think the thing you are missing is that people are quite complex in how they model these things internally. What works for you, may not work for them.
replyI don't think your advice is good "general advice" but if you treat it as a "this works for me, it might for you", then it might be worth reading.
I'm not sure if you caught that my post was a criticism of the system. I'm just describing what the optimal strategy is as prescribed by how our society is structured, not advocating for it.
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