The Nao robot[0] had this exact problem and of course no way to fail gracefully. I recall checking its basic functions with my lab partner in college. I looked away for a moment and that was when it went down hard. Me and the other guy locked eyes in an "oh fuck" moment, as the robot was expensive and our thesis supervisor went through quite a lot of paperwork to have it funded. Fortunately it was intact and none of us mentioned this incident to anyone.
Agricultural drone motors like the eaglepower 8308 are ideal.
They’re cost effective, (~$80 from aliexpress) & you can pair them with a 3d printed cycloidal drive to fulfill both requirements.
Industry actuators are an order of magnitude more expensive than this.
Extra: If you go down this path, you’ll need a driver. The Xdrive is frequently recommended, but there’s a clone that’s significantly cheaper: https://makerbase3d.com/product/makerbase-xdrive-mini-high-p...
You can also strap a capstan to the servo axle, if that's your thing. I've prototyped that myself in the past. You can go surprisingly far with an FDM printer, an SG90, and some dyneema bowstring. One thing I haven't tried is modding one for continuout rotation to get around the way the capstan drive limits the output angle you can achieve - I was happy reducing from ~180deg to ~45deg for what I was doing - but that's relatively well-trodden ground. Might pull that project out of the storage box it's languishing in at some point.
The 90KV version is what you want.
Hypothetically if I were to want a quadrupedal robot to experiment with it's not an impulse buy/build, but getting closer to that point... whereas $3000+ is a hard pass (e.g. Apple Vision Pro territory).
I guarantee this vendor would be delighted to make them to spec at a 1ku volume, max. Rewinding isn't even a meaningful SKU distinction or line retool, it's a configuration parameter.
At 12 motors per product, it's easy to hit MOQ.