> why would I need someone to tell me
This isn't about you. It is about working with others that are not exactly like you.
> Maybe if you don't know what you're doing . . .
Making up insulting reasons doesn't help either.
There’s a third category of people who actually need a lot of communication for different reasons (constant reassurance like you highlighted or maybe contestant management to keep them on track) but who also avoid communications like the plague. These are the hardest to manage without some rhythm of mandatory check ins.