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by sdenton420 hours ago |
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upvoteby MattGrommes38 minutes ago|
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> Ha, I don't think anyone who asks these questions expects that you'll respond in a fully unfiltered way.

Cut to the interviewer telling his friends about the weirdest interview he ever conducted, with a guy who unloaded all his life issues on him instead of focusing on work. :)

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upvoteby rsoto19 hours ago|
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Yeah, OP just unwinded himself, no filter. You can be truthful and open with friends and family, close people to you. You absolutely shouldn't when talking with strangers.
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upvoteby morkalork19 hours ago|
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Then strangers shouldn't fucking ask questions that could have answers that make them uncomfortable. Just a thought.
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upvoteby rkachowski9 hours ago|
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It's wild to see so many advocates of "the inexperienced should have experience already". You're put in an awful situation but it's your own fault because you went through it, you should have known better than to take questions at face value as presented.
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upvoteby ambicapter4 hours ago|
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Uhhhhh these questions are experience filters, that's why it's better to have experience when you answer them.
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upvoteby malfist4 hours ago|
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Don't you think an interview is a collaborative effort? What signal is the interviewer getting from a candidate if they're asking about work experiences and the candidate is answering with personal non-professional anecdotes?

Assuming that the candidate was in the wrong here, and the interviewer wanted work anecdotes, why didn't the interviewer guide them to the right topics? If they didn't guide them to the right topic, your assumption that they wanted work examples may be flawed.

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upvoteby anyfoo18 hours ago|
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We weren't there, and the article is light on details, so we can only speculate. I see two options here:

a) The potential employer vastly overstepped commonly accepted boundaries.

b) It was totally implied that the questions were to be answered in the context of work. "What was the hardest challenge you had to overcome?" in that context relates to e.g. debugging a hard concurrency problem, not your divorce.

What stood out to me is that whatever interpretation is the correct one, the candidate was willing to give (apparently) deeply personal answers. That's just something to adjust for in upcoming interviews, we live and learn.

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upvoteby arcfour8 hours ago|
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At any point the interviewer could have clarified if they meant "at work" when they received an inappropriate answer. The fact they did not do this means they did not mean "at work," which makes sense because the questions they ask neither specify that nor are worded to make one believe they are work-related.

What would be the point of conducting an entire hour+ long interview where the candidate is only giving you irrelevant answers and you make no attempt to get them on track?

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upvoteby masternight11 hours ago|
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They shouldn't ask such questions, but people also need to learn to push back against unreasonable behaviour too.
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upvoteby gherkinnn12 hours ago|
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"How are you?" "How was your weekend?"

It is common for people to ask a personal sounding question but expecting an impersonal answer.

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upvoteby thaumasiotes11 hours ago|
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And they should stop doing that. Who benefits?
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upvoteby ambicapter4 hours ago|
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The people asking when they figure out whether you can follow simple conventions or not.
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upvoteby 7 hours ago|
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upvoteby andai5 hours ago|
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I think this is the case of "hey how it's going." In most cases what is actually being demanded of you is a bullshit answer.

OP took it at face value. I can relate.

Alternatively, the interviewer was a psychopath. (I can also relate!)

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upvoteby 17 hours ago|
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upvoteby paulcole7 hours ago|
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This is what makes this a potentially (mostly) great interview. If the candidate can’t/doesn’t understand the dynamic of the interview and hates it, they opt out of the process.

Probably only thing I would’ve done differently would have been to limit first call to 30 minutes to save me time when someone is obviously a bad fit.

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upvoteby freehorse18 hours ago|
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But why ask about "the hardest day in your life" instead eg "the hardest day at work"?

Personally asking this kind of personal questions sounds very weird. You can evaluate soft skills and culture fit by asking more relevant, professional questions. Except if the reason to ask this kind of more personal questions was sth else.

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upvoteby cwnyth13 hours ago|
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Notice that the blog post author did not provide exact quotes. In fact, they explicitly state they do not remember the wording. It's very likely that they did, in fact, ask about biggest challenges, and the author misunderstood.
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upvoteby TylerE18 hours ago|
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The cynic in me says because they want to select candidates whose work IS their life.
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upvoteby stared18 hours ago|
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If they ask questions but expect fake, censored or cherry-picked answers, it says a lot about their culture.

Pro tip (for life, not only interviewing): never ask a question you don’t want to hear answer to.

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upvoteby johnfn18 hours ago|
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You are technically correct. But you must admit it sounds pretty bad to say "Yeah, the idea of the behavioral technical interview is the interviewer asks questions that look like they admit honest answers, but you should actually lie to them, and they expect you to lie, and actually it's a charade you play with your interviewer, and if you don't understand this (which is never explained to you) then you will immediately be rejected."

I can definitely understand the perspective of someone who has done few interviews not understanding this and being upset/confused!

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upvoteby thaumasiotes12 hours ago|
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I paid for interview coaching at interviewing.io. This is the coaching I got about the behavioral interview:

- "There is no place for honesty in a behavioral interview. No one is going to check your story."

- Tell a story about a time when you got into a dispute, ideally with your boss, over a work-related issue, and you won the dispute.

- If you have no relevant story, I [the coach] will write one for you to memorize.

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upvoteby nsvd219 hours ago|
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In fact, being able to "play the game" so to speak is probably part of what the interviewer is looking for.
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upvoteby throwaway8986419 hours ago|
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It is also possible that they were trying to see, if the person had traumas that would interfere with their ability to work with toxic content, do red-teaming / etc tasks.
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