Large electronic music events always been like that in my mind, attend the events with less than 1000 attendees and you'll find a completely different vibe. Also, Cochaella is American, maybe try something European next time, I've never been to any North American parties, but judging from what I could see in the past, and even today, they sure look a lot more commercialized than the same-sized events in Europe, and people seem to be interested in something else than dancing their ass off with strangers.
Same here. Just looking into going to Coachella or Burning Man seems like so much work. I'll take a summer festival in Spain, Germany or Netherlands instead.