edit: I may need to give the OpenShot 3.x a chance. The OpenShot release history [1] makes the claim that they have addressed many of my complaints
I even briefly considered using ffmpeg and bash to get the edits I wanted...
Blender has a complicated UI but at least it feels completely consistent and thought-through. And also like it wasn't designed 20 years ago. I just have more confidence using Blender than others because it's so big, respected and known.
My learning process is basically "How do I do this thing I did in Premiere?" and basic Googling/YouTubing. I needed a tutorial video to get started but otherwise if you know NLEs it shouldn't be too hard.
You might want to stay away from very recent major versions for stability, but it is a very capable editor that is also much more robust and performant than openshot.
I haven't compared with Blender VSE though.