Doing something that wastes other people’s time or makes more work for them than necessary makes me feel awful.
I’ve always worked in a way that respects other people’s time and I always tried to make sure I did everything I could to minimize the work I’m asking someone to do for me.
Is it even actually good to get to a point of blaming someone for an incident?
This is false, you’re just oblivious to people who grew up in conditions that would make them that way.