It is not clear to whom the term "you" refers in the author's reply
As for myself, I do not use remote DNS except to periodically retrieve bulk DNS data. When I am accessing HTTP servers I do not make remote DNS requests. I already have the IP address information I need. For me, this is faster and more reliable
I store bulk DNS data, obtained from a variety of sources, including public zone files, loaded into the memory of local TLS forward proxies
Every user is different and each user should think for themselves
For the long tail of unknown open DNS resolvers, use Shodan. But I would not suggest that you use any findings from Shodan to trust your internet usage with.
Yes, SNI is a generic internet privacy problem. However, it is not a property of DNS. On the positive side, ECH has been pushed through the IETF and should slowly be available to the general user.
/ The author