But if this is the case, as you say, it seems like a good opportunity to build a more welcoming set of entry points into this!
(Very reminiscent of 3D printing, where you get a lot of very trivial advice poorly applied, which is an analogy I've now made several times.)
Several of the youtubers are pretty helpful, though; I watched half a dozen things and absorbed the broad pattern and then went for it.
Also I got a lot out of reading HN comments, which is why I am here; tucked away in the corners of these discussions are people who can help. Over time I hope I am one.