I think (armchair analysis) it's a combination of two things, one is that it's by choice - people enjoy using LLMs, they find it valuable and convenient. As for social media, companies and society itself successfully managed to gamify people sharing their personal lives on the internet, to voluntarily reduce their own privacy. Also because they still believe they have a choice in the matter, by e.g. not posting or sharing things.

The other thing is the boiling frog analogy, it wasn't a sudden "we're at war now so you get a camera in your house" moment (iirc 1984 skips over the transition to an authoritative state though), it's a slow, gradual progress. People got used to taking selfies, then applying a filter, then using facial scans for identification, then a cool app that puts your face on movie scenes and now the company behind faceapp and co has detailed facial scans of millions of people.

Europe tried to limit it via legislation, but that's a lot of after-the-fact policing and that's just Europe.

That sounds like AI though, no? I've seen many below-average writers that are now dependent on it to write even medium length passages

Like rat poison. If it works too fast, the rats learn to avoid it.

But isn't the whole point to avoid getting banned? Like the system doesn't want to ban you, and you don't want to get banned, so what's the issue with knowing exactly how you get banned?

Except in the case of video games it in practice means that cheaters get to terrorize your playerbase without being banned. This tactic is the kind of decision that is made by people staring at metrics all day without considering what's going on in reality.