Something about bun always rubbed me up the wrong way (I even hate the name), but I couldn't really explain why.

Thankfully now I have some good material to post-rationalise my intuitive dislike

Mechanisms of beliefs, sense of identity and pride are behind of majority of projects including opensource. These are the same mechanisms which produce what you call "drama".

We can't have commited and involved people working on opensource stuff and simultaneously avoid drama when their sence of identity/beliefs/pride is devalued.