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My partner is a sleep consultant, and most of the time the families she works with are at their wits end and their marriage is hanging by a thread. Having young kids is incredibly hard on people and relationships.
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If you want to optimise and have the money to spare, I think it's fine. There are going to be people in the world that are better than you at most given tasks, and if working on those tasks is not fun for you and delegation is not a net negative, why not? It's why personal trainers exist (though I don't like them for separate reasons)
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Its clearly a net negative, though, because missing a nap is now causing tremendous anxiety to the point where they'd rather spend a week chatting with Claude to build an app which handles the consequences of missed naps than just spending some time with their infant, maybe reading to them so they fall asleep.
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The best comment in the whole discussion yet.
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You chat with Claude while the infant is asleep in your arms, not instead of holding the infant.
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Have you raised kids? This is the least shocking expenditure I've heard of; if this had existed when my kids were born I might have shelled out for it.
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I suppose there are babies with some kind of pathology in this area although I'm not convinced that is what this is.
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In Precious Little Sleep the writer says some half of babies sleep well and some half require help. We must have had the former and so there’s no advice to give. If you were in that set it’s possible that your actions changed something or it’s possible it’s just what it is.
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it's sleep training

it is insane and unnatural but it is also common

fundamentally capitalist concept

contact napping to beyond 1yo is deeply natural and special

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Let me share an anecdote from my soviet childhood.

Like most soviet children of the 80s, I was outsourced to my kindergarden each mom's workday.

I abolutely loathed everything about it, but the most fascist thing to my infant mind was the post-afternoon nap.

For the life of me, I just couldn't make myself fall asleep, and had to pretend, making extraordinary efforts to really look like sleeping.

We were literally scanned crib by crib, aisle by aisle by the surveilling nanny to detect sleep pretenders.

Those offenders of Morpheus who were caught red-handed, were routinely ordered to step out in front of the entire dorm, which of course was instantly awake and gleefully staring through eyelashes now, and do 20 humiliating squats.

Needless to say, that resulted in nothing but fierce hatred towards the soviet system, which treated children as future soldiers, and oppresion in general.

So let me disagree with you on day napping being a fundamentally capitalist thing, haha :)

The only difference is that it plants the seeds of hatred towards different entities - either the system or the parents.

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I guess the real thing here is society takes parents away from their children because those parents need to be used for value
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it's interesting that the cult of work common to capitalism and communism has no appropriate "ism" by itself
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For some it is and some it isn’t. My eldest was always a terrible sleeper.
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