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> I literally can't afford to raise him with the same values as I was raised with...

If it's any consolation he would have to figure out that himself anyway, because the world is currently changing faster than ever.

I was on vacation a while ago, where I had to explain to my kids the concept of not being able to pause a TV broadcast.

They live in a world of entertainment on demand and LLMs. My values were coined way before all that.

As for myself I'm wearing the skin of that young man I was 10 years ago and don't understand what was the big deal with some of those things he cared so much for.

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I appreciate the intention you and others are bringing. Not to be defeatist, but I do wonder how much of trying to set it straight sticks long term?

People have been trying to straighten things out for millennia and we are still in this predicament.

That isn't to say, don't try. It is to say, don't cling to an out come.

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The old "I won't raise my kids like my parents raised me" problem, which inevitably seems to lead to raising kids with a different set of grievances and unresolved issues.

I realised it was a lost cause when I realised that literally everyone I knew had some sort of "my parents are imperfect and it's broken me somehow" story. I think it might just be part of the human condition to grow up and realise your parents were flawed humans who made mistakes raising you.

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The outcome I'm clinging to is freedom. Until I have that, nothing else matters.
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