Nature v. Nuture. Age long debate, not to be solved here... but an interesting fact about this I heard in a huberman podcast. There are regions in you brain that will only get activated at a certain age (different in men and women) that will impact behavior or reactions to different stimuli. So as much as we think we are in control of our destiny, more is written into our genes than we might want or appreciate.
replyThat is such a derail, sorry. I was not trying to debate that, I do not want to debate that, I think you missed the point entirely.
replyBiological determinism doesn't matter at all for what is important here:
1. our internal cues don't correspond neatly to our words for emotions
2. it may be possible to interpret the same sensation as very different emotions depending on context
3. It may even be possible to mis-interpret our emotional sensations, or at the very least interpret them in self-destructive ways.