I have an m3 max 64GB and it runs ok, I was playing around with it last night. Its reasoning is better, but the token/s still makes an MoE model (35B A3B) preferable so I switched back.

Try using Goose instead of Claude's harness? Goose doesn't load as much context in at the start, so it might be more usable. I've definitely been able to get it past 128K, although I typically don't go beyond 70-80k. MoE might also be better at this.