For me, I know that one major reason for putting an upper limit on my success is my inability to form effective professional relationships. I know I should go to events and talk to people and use these relationships to my advantage, but that's just not something I've ever been good at, and I find it so incredibly unpleasant that I also just don't want to do it.
Do you think the most successful people got that way by attending events? I thought they were hacking in their garages, building great products.
I know there were opportunities I could have benefited from if I'd had better relationships with specific people.
> Do you think the most successful people got that way by attending events?
That's not what I said.
Nonetheless, there are many successful people I would gladly listen to for advice, though they are often successful in a different meaning than what venture capitalists would use (e.g. parents with great kids, managing to keep a healthy work-life balance, happiness, and maybe even having time to spend on some cool hobby project -- you are heros!)
Of course, there are degrees and exceptions on every side, but the coping mechanism is very strong among people.