So like what's the right way to be then? Just in a sustained meditation on the intrinsic unknowability of the answer to the true/real/key question? Nothing else can be said?

I don't want to be too blunt but it really just seems like you disagree with a certain take people have, but don't just want to say that for whatever reason. I think you might save yourself some bewilderment by just being honest about that to yourself...