I self-host my email, in part because I wanted to enforce encryption whenever I send. My server does verify the certificate of the target MX, whether it uses MTA-STS or not. Delivery fails if the certificate is invalid, and also fails if the destination (or a man in the middle) downgrades or strips STARTTLS.

In eight years, I’ve seen zero servers that refused STARTTLS, and only two invalid certificates. In both cases, the certificates were from a valid CA and weren’t expired, but the hostname was wrong. Both were due to outdated DNS records, one of which was fixed as soon as I reported it, and the other resolved itself after a few months.

Temporary states go on with a long tail. Look at the v6 transition. We're dual stack for the foreseeable future and it's my guess we'll be in partial deployment of secure mail transport for aeons.