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Yeah, you don't need to go that deep. Look through histories, myths, folklore from all around the world. Powerful men have mistresses. Regular men have mistresses. Powerful women go through several husbands. Regular women, too. The institution of marriage exists to counteract the natural human tendency to be "unfaithful". No one needs to make excuses, they need to accept the fact that this kind of thing happens and update their expectations.

I say this as someone who's family was torn apart by an affair, by a failure to update expectations. Well, that was the excuse; the issues were deeper, the affair was a focus-sink and an excuse not to address them. I wonder if that's the case here, too.

(I should make clear that I think Jensen Huang sucks for other reasons.)

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> Jensen and Kim calculated that, for men in their first year of marriage, the divorce rate is 96 percent higher for Oscar nominees and 205 percent higher for winners

When men suddenly get more attention from women, they're more likely to cheat. Interestingly, women who earn Oscars are more likely to keep their husbands than other actresses.

https://newrepublic.com/article/121108/oscar-curse-myth

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No judgement on the approach but I do advise being careful not to blame yourself for the actions of others. Sometimes your own expectations are valid.
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"these people" ?
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Rich people who can’t help themselves to whatever they want/see because they are too powerful/rich and have lost perspective. They think they can do whatever they want with impunity because most of the time they can. Then once in a while there are actual repercussions and someone wants us to be sympathetic? Get outta here
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> Get outta here

Lol, don't take out your anger for not being rich at random people on the internet. Affairs are common across diverse economic profiles of people, not just the rich. All that anger for nothing.

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I’m not angry, I’m laughing at how absurd this is.

Yes affairs are unfortunately common but this whole honey pot thing is ridiculous. That doesn’t suddenly make me sympathetic to cheating.

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Seriously. They're asking us to give this guy more grace than any other cheater because he's wealthy.
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Rich people, lol. I think this tale's been told cross income net worth strata for something on the order of eons (or all of human history if you really want to know).
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And yet who would go to bat for you and I claiming we deserve sympathy for having an affair?
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People for whom fidelity is optional.
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There’s a 100% chance the dude was so hornt up that he didn’t care if he slept with a spy or whatever. Inventing a universe where he lost at Six Dimensional Sex Chess is what somebody would do for an AO3 story
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