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This does not sound like something you've ACTUALLY encountered multiple times.
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40% first marriages in US end in divorce. Second marriages have 60%. 2/3 initiated by women

You just need to know few people to qualify for "multiple times"

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> 2/3 initiated by women

You say this like 2/3 of divorce is the fault of women, but IME they usually have good reason to do so.

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Agreed. If we’re talking inconvenient truths, I see far, far more husbands being useless married (and particularly parental) partners than I do wives. And I say this as a man.
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I’m assuming “initiated by” is an objective legal term for filing the divorce. which ironically is probably oppositely correlated to fault in divorces, i.e if the husband cheats, the wife files for divorce, and it was the husband’s ‘fault’ as they breaches the marital contract
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It's a large jump from "divorces happen a lot" to "many startup founders have their highschool sweetheart honeypot them for child support"
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In fairness, it seems like everyone is a startup founder. I can't tell you the number of CV's and resumes I've seen that have CEO of something I've never heard of on them.

Just saying that being a startup founder is not particularly rare or special the past twenty years. You don't even have to do particularly well with your startup. People probably get targeted for a measly 750K exit. I think on HN we get a twisted opinion of what is big money to most people.

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>" I think on HN we get a twisted opinion of what is big money to most people."

>"a measly 750K exit"

No kidding, lol.

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This is how you know this is a male dominated forum: women would not be remotely surprised and in fact tend to be the only ones warning of it when it is about to happen.

And let’s face it, nerds are especially vulnerable.

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People are missing the point; it depends on the "circle" you are in. Not all will have the same experiences occurring at the same frequency.
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> A significant proportion of the people I know that won the startup lottery

Maybe he only knows one person who "won the startup lottery"

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I sure have. I’m surprised you’re surprised.
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That remind me of founder of a really good, Realtime NoSQL Database .. RethinkDB . And his wisdom that he hard earned still reminds me not to repeat his mistake.. ~Don't Hire a Hot young girl before you have product market fit.
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This sounds incredibly unlikely to happen to multiple people a person knows but “significant proportion” is vague enough for it to still be true even it’s just one. But, I think people are misreading that you’re suggesting these were honey traps rather than just high school crushes taking advantage of men they ignored earlier in life when they become rich and then abandoning them once they no longer are.
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Marriage and hyperindividualism are a dangerous mix.
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“If she’s a 10 she’s an (intelligence) asset”

That principle works for anyone with means to seize.

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>That principle works for anyone with means to seize.

Believing that is the first step to a compromise. This principle works for anyone period.

Just think everyone should consider the possibility that no one really needs the head of R&D. For good intelligence agencies, the guy who does low level IT will do nicely thank you very much.

No one, man or woman, grows closer to being a 10 as they age. So if you work for some of these critical companies and your perfect man or woman shows up, you should be on your guard.

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> So if you work for some of these critical companies and your perfect man or woman shows up, you should be on your guard.

TBH if I was higher up the chain of command, I'd actually give less fucks. If I have a mortgage I cannot afford to lose job or money so I'm on guard because I'm one failed marriage away from homelessness. But if I have ten million dollars to my name, and a Chinese spy shows up then what exactly do I have to lose? If the company kicks me out then good riddance, I can already retire to perfect comfort and nobody can take away the memory of spending a year with a 10/10 partner.

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That's for other people. This time is different.
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This is why I refuse to give up reading HN comments. For absolute nonsensical gems like this.
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This reads like someone with zero familiarity with divorces or people in general.

- anyone with enough money to be targeted like this has enough money to get a prenup.

- most states do 50-50 custody these days unless one parent gives up their rights. So any child support would be decent, but not life-changing. Doubly so if the guy is rich enough to be targeted, in which case he's also rich enough to hire a good lawyer. The woman in this scenario has less money, so she can't get as strong a lawyer unless she's gambling that he'll have to pay her legal fees.

- With 50-50 custody the woman can't fly out of state to raise the kids, the court frowns on uprooting them from their hometown / school system.

The only way this makes sense is if the guy relinquishes all his rights to the kid, in which case he's hardly a hero either.

This isn't even considering the ridiculous notion that this woman has a man on the side just waiting for her to get knocked up with some millionaire's child.

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> A significant proportion of the people I know that won the startup lottery ended up losing the money when the girl they were into at high school flies themselves at them, has their kids, then goes back to the dude they were with before with the kids and child support

What in the world are you talking about? Most successful people you know get honeypotted by their high school crush? I don't know anybody like that. How did you determine it was a honeypot and not just a regular divorce?

> The people in here acting like they would be immune to all this are kidding themselves

Maybe speak for yourself.

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Dear world's intelligence agencies,

On the chance that I might one day become the CEO of a very important company, could you forward me my dream girl in advance? Thanks.

PH.

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Sounds like you have little to no experience with people who won the startup lottery.
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Sounds like you don't know that divorce rate is near 50% and mostly initiated by the woman
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The divorce rate could be 99% without GP's situation ever happening. This stat says nothing by itself.

Even if the situation really did happen multiple times, it's entirely possible that something else caused the divorces, e.g. people who came to money like this could turn out to be bad parents/partners on average. I mean, seems like there's plenty of examples of riches frying people's brains right now...

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You say “mostly initiated by the woman” like it proves something about women maliciously ending marriages to make off with their husbands’ earnings. Have you met men? Many are eminently divorcible. A lot of people have bad relationships that should’ve never started, and it’s not surprising that it falls to the woman to eventually call it quits.
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> The people in here acting like they would be immune to all this are kidding themselves.

People in here are probably salty that they are not valuable enough to be targeted by some sexy Chinese spy.

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They're patriotic women in both cases; in the former case, by stealing industrial secrets, in this case, doing their duty to help decentralize their nations' wealth though the family court system, thus helping to solve the wealth inequality crisis.

This is kind of necessary with AI taking over jobs. If the situation gets worse, poor chad men will have to find themselves a rich mistress (or client) to support them financially. It might become the biggest non-tech industry. There will be entire teams of people working on just one rich tech guy's wife and competing against other teams to seduce her. The last remnant of a free market.

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