Surely it matters that you can choose the things you want to be hard. Practicing guitar is hard, but I choose to do it, because I want to be better at that specific thing and the journey is the point. But not everything we do is like that. I don't want paying my bills to be hard.
replyThose things you don't want to be hard are chores. Software wasn't a chore for me; I enjoyed it. I play guitar too, I'm really glad I have another hobby that isn't programming actually. I guess it would be like if I could get programmed like Neo in The Matrix, I say "I know guitar" and suddenly I'm Jimmy Page. I wouldn't bother. Anyone could do it so it would be pointless to play. That's how I feel about programming now.
replyYup, this is the same "learning" as passively watching a 3blue1brown video and thinking you've mastered Fourier transforms or something.
replyNo, it's more active than that.
replyIt's closer to sitting in a lecture and actively asking questions, then discussing the material with others in the room (but still skipping the homework).