So true. The existing clients are actually the only reason I haven't asked all my friends to join my server. Only the ones who will put up with jank.

Gajim is _okay_ on desktop, but it leaves a LOT to be desired. Everything else feels way too bare-bones to feel comfortable recommending to Discord expats. Fluux Messenger is the closest I've seen, but it's sluggish for me. Maybe that's just Tauri on Linux.

Conversations is good on Android (bit barebones feeling), and I haven't tried out voice with it. IDK what the situation is in the Apple ecosystem.

I really, really wish I had the time to just start building a strong suite of XMPP clients. Every day Discord shoves a new ad in my face I get closer to biting the bullet.

I use Dino on the desktop and the experience has been almost as good as Conversations on mobile. For what it's worth.