PS. Btw, I am certain that this is the main cause of the mental health crisis amongst young people.
Its cause we already learned from our failures and make the world a safer place. In my youth we climbed on trees, one of my friend fall down broke his arm, the doctor couldn't fix it and he can not move the hand for the rest of his live. My friend would be happy do not been allowed to climb, or at least under safer conditions but have his hand moveable still. I burned myself really heavy with fireworks as teenager and have a huge scar from it. I never touched any firework after this but also never bought it for my kids, so they never had the chance to "learn" from making the the same mistake. Keep in mind that while claiming the world is too safe you say this from a perspective of an survivor.
Chaos engineering doesn't really apply to data critical or safety critical systems. You can't just break them in the real world to see how they fail.
You have it exactly right -- it has to be modeled and tested in lab conditions. Safety critical systems are not a place for YOLO development.