The famous interview I know is when he said:
"I really can't do a good job, any job, of explaining magnetic force in terms of something else you're more familiar with, because I don't understand it in terms of anything else that you're more familiar with"
His point was that fundamental forces cannot be understood as "like" everyday objects, because we don't "understand" everyday objects except as applications of fundamental forces. Using those things to explain fundamental forces would just be circular. He can tell you that a stretching rubber band is due to the electric field, but he can't then turn around and "explain" that the electric field is like a stretching rubber band! Fundamental forces just are, and you understand them by studying them.
>Fundamental forces just are, and you understand them by studying them.
This is largely the point I was trying to make. One must understand QM using non-everyday ideas developed with math and measurement. But once those ideas are held, similes/metaphor (sometimes actual isomorphs) can be useful parts of that understanding and its communication between those that share the basis for that understanding.
With quantum mechanics, there's a lot that you have to accept when you learn the subject without understanding why. Why complex numbers? Why infinite-dimensional Hilbert spaces? Why non-commutative algebra? You can kind-of, with great effort, make arguments that all of these are at least reasonable. But nobody really understands "why" at a level beyond "because the theory works".
>>>Physics steeped enough in quantum theory do understand QM enough to have meaningful discussions free (at times) of rigorous math.
That sounds a lot like gate keeping and has no actual backing - to understand QM you still need to understand Physics, as mechanics of both of them are explaining each other - the scale is the only difference.
Most of the times the formal version with equations agree with the hand waving, but sometimes you have nasty surprises and must learn to hand wave better.