I agree with your sentiment in general: we should not make assumptions about the parameters of others' relationships.
replyBut in this case, Huang himself explicitly mentioned the hurt that he caused his family. I don't think it gets much clearer than this.
I owe my family and all of you an apology.
I was unfaithful to my wife. My actions hurt her and
our children. There is no excuse for what I did. I am
deeply sorry.
Throughout my life, my family has given me love and
support. They deserve my honesty and loyalty. Instead,
I let them down and damaged the life we built together.
I take full responsibility for what I did and the hurt I
caused, and I accept the criticism that comes with it.
To my wife and family: I love you. I know an apology
cannot undo what I have done. I hope our family will heal
and that, over time, I can earn back your trust.
We don't know how much of that is "what public expects" in such situation vs what is actually true.
replyEven if his wife doesn't care it would be wise to keep this apology style, rather than try to go with cliche "its not as bad as it looks".
This is just some basic PR letter, no one from his family actually cares about corporate theatrics
replyHe wrote himself a press release saying he was unfaithful and because of his actions he hurt his family... it sounds pretty clear that was not a consensual non-monogamous relationship. https://nvidianews.nvidia.com/news/a-message-to-our-company
replyIf it was an open marriage, why would his first statement have been an apology to his wife and family? I don't see any reason to start assuming it was actually fine. In any case the affair becoming public in such a way would still be hurting them - the media attention you're speaking about. Much worse than a divorce, right?
replyBecause the public sentiment towards open marriages is even more negative than towards infidelity? One is seen as a mistake that one can atone for, while the other is seen as a rejection of the institution itself in a country that has strong beliefs in it. Still only 65% of Americans support gay marriage, for example. Marriage following strict rules remains deeply important to a lot of people.
reply> the institution itself in a country that has strong beliefs in it.
replyIt could be argued much of that is performative. The most vocal group for this in America voted for someone who is well known to break oaths.
Absolutely it is performative. Writing a public "apology" for spending time with another person in their free time is also performative. Nobody actually cares what you do with your life. They aren't thinking about you at all. But when performing, the performance has rules of engagement.
replyhe wouldn't have publicly apologized if all of that was "perfectly fine" with his wife
replyMight wanna google the term “affair”
replyHe publicly stated he broke his wife’s trust, buddy.
replyPeople don't need facts when they just want an excuse to attack someone from the outgroup.
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